Keep your personal words manageable
A few clear sentences are enough. Use words you would normally say and practise reading them aloud slowly.
Print a copy in a size you can read easily. Ask your celebrant to hold a spare and help you if you lose your place.
Choose how to share them
You could read your personal vows, repeat a line at a time with your celebrant or save some words for a private letter or moment together.
Personal vows are separate from the required legal wording. Your celebrant will explain what needs to be said in the marriage ceremony.
Give yourself permission to pause
Take a breath, look at your partner and slow down. A laugh or a tear does not spoil the moment, and there is no need to memorise a performance.
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